From stripper rumors to bestie sister-in-laws, viewers have seen it all from Melissa Gorga and Teresa Giudice on Real Housewives of New Jersey. This season has put Melissa in the middle of Teresa and her newest nemesis, Jackie Goldschneider. It’s been fascinating to watch Melissa flirt the line between supporting her actual friend, and the one she so unfortunately married into. Meanwhile her husband, Joe Gorga, will defend Tre no matter what.

At the same time, the drama between Joe Gorga and Joe Giudice is seemingly endless. But why exactly is it allowed for the Joes to physically fight and drag each other in the press while Melissa and Teresa need to hold hands…